Send a message to the person who requested a photo of the grave monument of John Boldero with the following comment:
My Dad wanted to see Rattlesden again before he died but I couldn't get him there in time. I am now interring his ashes in the churchyard along with my grandfathers, and want to know where the family grave is so that we can inter the ashes there. The vicar said he couldn't help me find the grave of my great great grandfather John Boldero.